There are two kinds of sorrowÑgodly sorrow that leads to repentance, and worldly sorrow that brings death. This is an important concept when our kids come home upset about something that happened that day. What is our goal in that discussion? Is it to place blame, make excuses or correct them so it doesn’t happen again? Or, is it to explore with them the impact of the event and gently and empathetically lead them to see how God could use it to bring them to a place of repentance?
So often, we get caught up in the emotions of the moment and we forget that God can redeem anything. How great would it be if sorrow led to your kids seeing God just a little more clearly? That’s what godly sorrow is intended to do!
Recognize that painful experiences can be opportunities for our kids to grow closer to God.
Now I am glad I sent it, not because it hurt you, but because the pain caused you to repent and change your ways. It was the kind of sorrow God wants his people to have, so you were not harmed by us in any way. For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.
2 Corinthians 7 NLT
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